‘everybody happy’ except when some vulnerability which would’ve got fixed by updates gets exploited. It seems monthly refresh scheduling will be out by the end of January or so (there’s no release dates for snapd 2.31 yet but it looks like it’ll be in that) or a few weeks earlier if you refresh to the snapd 2.31 beta when it comes out. See The snapd roadmap
I agree with your sentiment though, it would be faster to implement an automatic refresh disable switch, and would respect users’ control…but it seems the snappy developers would rather go for the long haul here and instead try and meet all users’ needs without implementing that switch. Do they need to allow refreshes to be capped at a certain speed? Managed across all your devices at a higher level? Give a longer refresh window than one month? I’m sure they will seriously consider and implement suggestions that don’t involve an off switch, so this is the place to make them!